I was asked to join a group of mamas for a new blog series called #TogetherWeMother and I am so excited to be a part of it! Each month we will choose the same topic and write a post based on our own experiences. I think this will be a great way to see just how different we all are yet still we’re out to accomplish the same thing, raise our children as best we can. This months topic is “it really does take a village.” My spin on this may be a bit different than some because I’ve had to find, rely on and support my village through virtual relationships. We are 2,000+ miles away from family so we’ve had to get a little creative.
Moving to Alaska less than two months after giving birth to my first baby was one of the most terrifying, depressing and exciting times in my life. I knew I was headed as far North and West as I could get and the thought of being that far from our family scared the crap out of me. How was I going to do this? My husband is gone 1-2 weeks at a time each month so in a way I was going to be all on my own. I also knew it was going to be emotionally difficult for me to separate Hudson from his grandparents because I so badly wanted him to grow up having that somewhat local family relationship. But it is what it is and we were off to one of the most beautiful places to start our first family adventure together and that was exciting! Thankfully my husbands mother, Rebecca, was able to tag along during our move and stayed a month or so after we arrived. This was especially helpful for me to get acquainted with this new town and adjust to my new life as a mama to the best little boy I could have ever asked for. When she left, it started to hit me that doing this on our own was going to be nearly impossible. I soon realized that the village everyone talks about doesn’t have to be a physical one and you don’t even have to personally know the people. Your village is all around you, you just have to open yourself up to it.
Aside from our daily FaceTime sessions with our friends and family, and the occasional visits we make to see my mom in Chicago or my dad comes to visit us in Juneau, I took to Instagram. I can’t even begin to explain how helpful it has been feeling like I have an army of women on my side rooting for me and helping me every step of the way. I never could have imagined that a social media platform would provide me with that strong sense of community. How did I get so lucky? Not only do I have my family on my team, encouraging me, listening to me, and giving me advice, I have people from all over the world! That is my village. And I believe that is what a village should be. When raising a child, you are going to have doubts, scares, frustrations, confusions etc. You’re going to get some things right and sometimes make errors. There have been many days I have felt not only physically exhausted but mentally too and thought for sure I was going to lose my patience and snap. There were days that I tried to get Hudson to take as many naps as I could get him to (pretty much impossible now days) just so that I could have some peace and quiet. More often than not the dirty laundry is overflowing, the dishes are piled high and I’ve been wearing the same clothes for the last three days. I can’t help but wonder what I’m doing right, what I’m doing wrong, or if what I’m going through is normal or totally insane. Having the ability to go on Instagram or a blog or some other social media platform, and be able to read honest daily wins as well as fails is something that joins us all together. Sometimes just hearing the words “you’re doing the best you can” come from someone other than yourself makes you relax and stay positive. Wether we know it or not, we’re all on the same team. We all have one of the most important things in common and that is, we’re all trying to raise our children the best we can.
Be sure to check out the creative women in the #TogetherWeMother Series by visiting their blogs below:
Sometimes Sweet | Bluebird Kisses | Lucky Penny | Kikhaly
Household Mag. | Above Harrison | Petite Biet
Chrissy Powers | Mom Crush Monday | Bonjour Ava